authentic | dare to be you


“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” ~E.E. Cummings

It took me a long time to figure out who I really am and embrace it. It’s amazing what society and current ideals / expectations can do to you. You may become a chameleon and shape your opinions and beliefs on your company. Without noticing you trade your authentic self for the security of being liked and because of your fear of being judged.

Authenticity doesn’t come natural when you grow up behind The Wall. You must “meet the norm” (no more, no less) and you feel like you’re under constant surveillance. Nothing is more liberating than being yourself as fully as you know how. When you have nothing to hide and you can freely be yourself with everyone, there is a profound peace and confidence you will exude to the world.

Authenticity requires self-knowledge and self-awareness. Authentic people accept their strengths and weaknesses. They are accountable, genuine and real. Authentic people are imperfect. They are connected to their values and desires and act deliberately in ways that are consistent with those qualities.

Authenticity may also require you to acknowledge aspects of yourself that you’d rather hide away, but in the end it allows you to live a more open, honest and engaged life.

Authentic people don’t repress their feelings. Anxiety and guilt arise from not being present. They are both destructive. If you doubt your ability to handle challenges in the future, you create anxiety. Guilt results from feeling bad about past mistakes or people we have hurt.

Authentic people believe they are worthy of love and peace of mind. They are not afraid of voicing their opinions and they are fully aware that they can’t please everyone. There will always be naysayers, so what?

Authentic people have the courage to live their lives based on what they believe is right.

Photo by Rick Robillard

  • Whitney

    Very well said. I like me and don’t want to be anyone else!


    Whitney & Blaire

    Peaches In A Pod

  • Ashley White

    I love that e.e. cummings quote!

    Great post, lady!

    Le Stylo Rouge

  • Marta C

    Such a well written post and very inspiring! It can be hard to be your true self in a world that can be so harsh and judgemental but I couldn’t agree more that it is the best way to live. It took some time for me to realize this also. Thanks for sharing.

    • Red Reticule

      Thank you so much, Marta! I think it’s so important to have the courage to be ourselves and not try to follow ideals just because it’s the latest and greatest thing to be or to have. Have a great weekend!

  • Edwige A.

    Wow! One of the best article I’ve read from you! It really does speak to me, because I was very sensible about what people would think of me and at some point, I found myself trying to please everybody and a long the way, I was loosing my authencity. Thank God, I no longer believe in losing my edges to please everybody. Being yourself is very important and that’s the thing. We are all different and unique in our ways and that this what makes us authentic. Thank you for sharing.

    • Red Reticule

      I used to burn so much energy on trying to figure out what people thought of me. I read things into their reactions and drove myself crazy. It’s only ONE you in this world and not having you the way you are would be a shame. Thank you so much for your thought and stopping by! Have a great weekend, Edwige!

  • Esther

    Love this post, so inspiring! It is definitely a hard thing to be your true self, and it takes a lot of courage! I love everything you wrote!

    xo, Esther

    • Red Reticule

      It takes some work, courage and self consciousness to be our real selves. I am not a confrontational person, so it’s been a journey. I’m happy you found this inspiring. Thank you for stopping by, Esther! Bogi

  • Happinessatmidlife

    It really is tough to be true to yourself and I think it’s harder with media pushing how everyone should look. Thank you for joining TBT Fashion link up and hope to see
    you next week. Have a great weekend!