Do you ever look into the mirror or a photo of you and wonder what impression you make on people? Who do you see? Who do you think they see? Do you make people feel warm and fuzzy or do they avoid you? Do you feel you are judged? Do you judge others before they have a chance to open their mouth?
I was struck by these questions by a recent event that most of us would probably quickly slide over. I was complementing a woman’s hairdo who I’ve known for a short period of time. The response I got was a “That’s pretty much the only thing I like about myself“. I wondered. This is a beautiful, confident and intelligent woman. Truly.
What makes a 30+, 40+ or even a 50+ year old woman not embrace her body and flush those insecurities down the toilet once and for all? Why wouldn’t that woman dress her curves rather than hiding them and love herself? Especially in a day and age when curves are being celebrated again! …when you re-discover those long forgotten Marilyn Monroe photos when she was a size 10!
The thing about body image is this. If you want to look lean, you have to work for it. …hard. If you really think that women in their thirties and forties look lean because they have great genes or they are just lucky, you’re naive. By the time you step into your thirties, you better take advantage of your gym membership! Now, top this off with a condition that causes you not being able to go for a week to do your business. I have to work out vigorously 4 times a week just to maintain my metabolism. Sometimes I think I could go without eating for two days and I’d still be putting on weight if I didn’t worked out. So, I kind of have an idea how much willpower and dedication it takes.
But here’s the bottom line: If you want to look like that skinny b..h next door, get up and work for it! Otherwise embrace and love yourself and dress those curves! I used to be 2-3 times my current size and I was the same fashion lover with a closet that’s too small as I am today. Oh! Since fast fashion brings us the most affordable clothing in a huge a variety, the “I can’t afford to look stylish” phrase doesn’t fly anymore either.
With this story, I only want to encourage you to be who you are! Never quit looking your best, but also don’t kill yourself. Embrace and dress those curves! As I refuse taking medication or being in constant pain, a diet rich in fiber and working out has become part of my lifestyle. I haven’t stood on a scale or counted calories in years. The way my clothes fit speaks to me loud enough.
Who do you see when you look into the mirror?
Photo by Rick Robillard