OK, so what the heck does this crazy Hungarian woman mean by a “no resolution” resolution year? Well, I find New Year’s resolutions quite tedious to be honest with you. Why does it have to be the beginning of a new year to reflect and make future plans? Most of our resolutions are too big, too general, simply impossible to follow and by the end of January they are long forgotten. …unless Mrs. “She Who Must Be Obeyed” makes a remark to Mr. “You Better Do What She Tells You”, why he is “snacking” on an entire pint of ice cream at 10PM again?
You should reflect often, observe and truly listen no matter the time of the year. The way people react to you is the best mirror you can hold up and look into. I have a tendency to get carried away and eventually carpet bomb (verbally, of course) the ones who are close to me. …because I’m too sensitive and I could use more sense of humor.
Some of the things I’ve gradually changed in my life towards a better me (because there is always room for improvement):
1. I started making more effort to call my grandparents every other month, not just on birthdays. I didn’t realize how much it meant to them until I had them on the phone a few times.
2. In the fall I decided to start my day an hour earlier, so I can finish it an hour earlier to come home and whip up a home cooked meal.
3. At the end of 2015 I started a new job, which made me feel intimidated on many levels. I had to realize that the “I HAVE TO nail this within the first month and wow everyone with my smartness” attitude is not going to work unless I am a genius like Bobby Fischer. I was killing myself studying as much as I could before my first day and on my first day I realized I was just as “dumb”. I had to start taking smaller bites to avoid complete defeat. I started to use some of my lunch breaks to read a few pages of recommended books, I met up with friends in the business for dinners. I allocated 45 minutes of each day to learn something in that industry.
Small steps are so much more powerful, less painful and more effective on the long run than a big bite.
4. My husband and I have been cherishing any time that we get together. It’s so easy to get into a routine and roll from one task to another. Months and years go by when you finally realize at your wedding anniversary how long you’ve been married and how little quality time you’d spent together.
It’s important that you constantly strive for a better you and take small steps towards it. A friend asked me what my New Year’s resolution was and I didn’t have an answer for him. Why? Because I like to start taking steps towards change as soon as I’ve been through a situation and have a minute to run through my head what happened.
I did learn a thing or two about life in 2015 that put things in perspective for me:
- True wisdom is always free.
- Spend more time around people who both challenge and respect you.
- Get used to feeling stupid. It’s a sign of growth.
- Do what you say you’ll do.
- Keep people around you that will tell you the truth.
- Genius gets you nowhere. Execution is everything.
- Find mentors. Just don’t call them that.
- Be humble and curious.
- Always remember those who helped you.
- Don’t take anything personally, ever.
Did you make any New Year’s resolutions or you chose 2016 to be the “no resolution” resolution year?
I wish you all a very happy and healthy New Year!
Photo by Rick Robillard