life lessons from mark twain
Happy new week everyone! As you can tell we have been experimenting with indoor photography more and more pushing ourselves to use shadows and create moods in our photos. I wonder what does this photo make you think of?
The older I get, the more I reflect and the more mindful I am in every aspect of my life. I remember the lessons life has taught me, appreciate my family more and keep in mind how far I’ve come.
I am sure you are all familiar with Mark Twain. My brother and I grew up on Huckleberry Finn and Tom Sawyer’s adventures. That was our Sunday matinee. It wasn’t until later in my life when I read more of Mark Twain and realized what wise guy he was. Here are some of my favorite quotes from him that I feel everybody should take to heart.
“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”
Doubting yourself can be your worst enemy. I used to doubt myself all the time and put up fictional barriers in my mind that told me what I was or was not capable of. So many limitations are mostly in our minds. Let it go and focus on your goals. The only and most important approval about your goals and actions is YOUR APPROVAL.
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”
My late father-in-law’s famous saying to my husband as a child always was “If you want to say something, then count to 10 first and then don’t say it.“. You have to be mindful about what you say, and ask yourself is it really worth it? At the end of the day, anger is often more hurtful to you than the person you’re angry at. Either talk to the person and resolve the conflict or let go of anger.
“Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.”
Our parents worked hard to provide for us a better life than what they had. Naturally, they wanted to spare us the challenges they had to go through. When we become parents we want to provide more and better to our children than what we had growing up. Natural and human. However this also comes with a sense of entitlement. You expect to have things or a certain lifestyle because you got used to it.
Your parents worked for all those things and now you / we have to do the same. Nothing is free. You will pay for everything labeled “free” sooner or later. The later, the bigger the price. Being on my own was very scary at first and I didn’t get a real sense of it until I lived on my own in Germany. My stipend was very little and by the time I paid my rent (for a shoe box), I barely had enough money left to pay for bread and milk. At the same time I supported myself without any help from anyone and I realized that I was my own boss to shape my life.
“The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.”
A smile or a compliment doesn’t cost you anything, yet it may just make that other person’s day. I find this key in my professional life as well as when I stop by at the grocery for milk.
Plus you never know when you might be in a position when you could use some help from that person…
…and last but not least…
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did so. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Have a great start into the new week! Thank you for reading!
Photo by Rick Robillard
life lessons from mark twain