adjusting your personal style to your changing lifestyle

adjusting your personal style to your changing lifestyle

adjusting your personal style to your changing lifestyle virginia fashion blogger REDRETICULE

Defining personal style and building a wardrobe with clothes that have the “This is so me!” written all over them sounds easier than it actually is.  I love midi skirts, however they are not appropriate in my line of work, ergo it makes little sense for me to stock up on full pleated midi skirts that I can only wear on weekends (minus those weekends when all I care for are comfy jeans).

As our lifestyle changes, like getting a new job that may well come with a different dress code, becoming a mother or traveling a lot forces us to make adjustments to our wardrobes. Essentially you want your clothes serve your needs and not the other way around. And sometimes things gets tricky. Those are the moments when I am gazing at my closet filled with clothes yet I’ve got nothing to wear. Sounds familiar?

I got great use out of my favorite jeans and cropped, comfy pants at jobs where the dress code was casual. However as you move up on the ladder, you have to make adjustments to your attire. This means potentially getting rid of stuff (I cannot stand a closet that is not transparent, so I am in a constant battle.).

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There are a few tips though that have helped me keep things in perspective over time and allowed me to make those adjustments without doubting my personal style:

inspect your closet a few times a year

This is a task I never like doing, yet I find it so efficient on the long run. I trained myself over the years not to hold on to pieces that I haven’t worn in the last year. They just take up space and end up collecting dust. You want to have a wardrobe that you constantly refine and that truly reflects where you are in your life and career.

shop smart

This sounds tough, but once you train your brain it becomes second nature. You want to buy items that will fill a hole in your closet rather than adding to the pile. The old saying that you should visualize three outfits with that garment or accessory before purchasing them is so true. I like to invest in footwear, handbags and suits. For everything else I go to Forever 21, H&M, Amazon or Zara.

take your lifestyle goals into consideration

You want your style to reflect your personality, but it also has to make sense in your field of work, your overall lifestyle, the city you live in and aligned with your long-term goals. If you want to work in fashion, consider adding more trendy pieces – I recommend not to spend much on them though since they go out of style as quick as they become trendy. If you want to climb the corporate ladder, you may want to invest in a sharp suit. Always keep your needs in mind. The perfect wardrobe should be tailored to your lifestyle. 

the power of accessories

Accessories are, without a doubt, the easiest way to pull any look together regardless of the vibe you want to achieve. You can update jeans and a white t-shirt with a bold necklace or pair layered, delicate jewelry with a dress for a more feminine feel. Accessories play a big part in showcasing your personality.

be authentic

It’s easy to get off track when you see someone at the coffeehouse pulling off those ripped jeans like nobody’s business. The most important thing when developing your style is to be true to yourself. Experiment with different patterns, textures, accessories, and shoes. And who cares about the designer? It all boils down to feeling good in your own skin. Fashion is a tool for inspiration and the expression of who you truly are.

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What is your experience with defining your personal style?

Photos by Rick Robillard

  • Shell Peterson

    All of these are breathtaking! Love your style!
    xo, Shell

  • for seven seasons

    It is crazy how much a wardrobe can change. I’ve really only gone from the school/student look to the business casual one, but I expect many more adjustments to come!

  • Julia

    First of all, I am mindblown by how incredible you look in a plain black business suit, with just a dash of red. Nothing beats a great suit. Then, I love the green & pink outfit, makes me want to say that Bogi “boldly goes where no one has gone before” :)))) I don’t know if you are a Start Trek fan, but if you are, you know where that line is from. If you’re not, for sure your husband knows, just ask him :) The colorful pencil skirt worn with cobalt blue blouse is just perfect. I have to dig through your archives to see what skirt is that and where I can buy it. The same for the green midi even though I am not so sure the heavy patterned fabric is going to work well for my size. What do you think ?
    Now, speaking of adapting wardrobes, mine went from rock and gothic tomboy in my early 20s (yes, all those biker jackets, leather coats, Metallica t-shirts, cowboy boots and dark purple lipstick – horror ! ) to functional and business casual in my mid 20s (studying Politics required interaction with high profile dignitaries and visiting public institutions but I was still a poor student, taking the subway, therefore no heels and not that many skirts; straight leg black jeans with ballet flats, shirt and blazer was the day-to-day style). My late 20s found me living in between my native country and several Western European countries so my style turned into stylish comfort-when-I-travel. Talk moccasins, ripped jeans, cool t-shirts, colorful sweaters and stylish leather jackets/blazers (one specific white leather blazer bought in Barcelona lasted for years and turned any outfit into a stylish combo). Early 30s took to me workwise and for personal reasons literally all over the world and that brought along with a new career, an entirely new wardrobe. I agree with you that the designer doesn’t matter but in some business environments in certain parts of the world where it’s all about showing off if you show up at a meeting with the “not acceptable” brand of watch or handbag you don’t get the trust and then you don’t get the business. You have to show you are successful, therefore I had to learn to invest in high quality, branded shoes, handbags, watches, sunglasses and suits & shirts, but shopping smart, hunting the sales or taking one big shopping trip to the Outlet Malls on the 2nd of January when the most massive discounts kick in. Armani boots at 90% discount anyone ? :) Seeing my wardrobe someone might have imagined I was a very wealthy woman. I wasn’t, I was just a smart-shopping one, paying only 10-30 % of the actual price, buying at the right time.
    After several years of insane world traveling and having a functional mix-and-match wardrobe, high street clothes mixed with designer shoes and bags, mostly business oriented, my late 30s brought me a changed lifestyle, more static, no more travels and more time to experiment with bright colors, patterns, have the ability to wear skirts and super high heels, even full midi skirts now because of you :)
    In brief, I went from biker jacket & cowboy boots to black jeans – blazer – ballet flats, to funky t-shirts – ripped jeans & moccasins, to designer shoes & business suit, to shirt & pencil skirt combo for work and super heels & full colorful skirts off duty.
    Two things I am allergic to and you will never see me wear: sport shoes/sneakers outside of the gym and the Boho-I’m a veg-I do yoga-I go to India look. Other than that, anything can be tried. I wonder what my wardrobe will look like when I’m 60 :)

    • Red Reticule

      Thank you Julia! I hope you’ll enjoy some of the archives! Have a wonderful weekend! Bogi

  • Stacey Simón

    Wow you look amazing in every single outfit! Love your style!

  • Heidi D.

    I love your style and I love watching it evolve over time while still staying true to you!

    Heidi || Wishes & Reality

  • Lorena Lorena

    Marvelous pictures and outstanding style –
    My personal style ? that’s such a good question. It depends.
    I keep evolving (cross my fingers that it’s positively!) and most of the time I bring in vintage and like to keep it simple.

    • Red Reticule

      Just keep evolving! It’s hard to figure out your personal style if you don’t experiment. Have fun with it. Thank you for stopping by!

  • dominique

    i can’t get over how gorgeous all these outfits are! You have such wonderful style! xx

    • Red Reticule

      Thank you! You’re so sweet! Have a great Sunday! Bogi

  • Bookie Adeshiyan

    Thank you so much for sharing all these look. I love them all. I like the idea of injecting color into each one

    • Red Reticule

      Thank you! I do like to add a little color to each look. Colors work better with my skin tone then neutrals. I hope you’re having a great weekend! Bogi

  • Chow Down USA

    All of these looks are stunning and really cater to your overall message. It’s so important to be true to ourselves and be smart with our shopping! As our lives change, our wardrobe should change to accommodate that, not the other way around! Thanks for teaching me the “imagine 3 outfits” rule, I hadn’t heard that one before!

    Chow Down USA

    • Red Reticule

      Thank you, Chelsea! The “imagine 3 outfits before you buy” rule has helped me to fill holes in my wardrobe rather than adding stuff that I don’t really need. Have a great Sunday!

  • Anika May

    Great post, I’m also totally and completely obsessed with your style!

    Anika |

  • Amy Ann Arnold

    Great tips! It’s important to have a wardrobe that fits our lifestyle.

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  • Kelly

    This is such an accurate and well written point! As I moved companies I found that a good portion of my wardrobe was unsuited for the new role and definitely had to readjust!

    xx Kelly
    Sparkles and Shoes

  • Dee Kay

    You really gave the best tips I always have a hard time following the shop smart rule, definitely still working on it though. And I’m in love with your feminine, classic, and chic style, you can literally pull off anything <3


  • mahryska

    ahhh great post….and love your style!
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  • betty maye

    Great post. Love the red skirt with the black stripes jacket – I prefer my skirts longer but it is a beautiful skirt.

  • jess

    I love your tips and how your circumstance dictate the wardrobe. I love your style and get that about the midi skirt! The texture n the red skirt with the striped jacket is so pretty and I love the mix of pink and green, wonderful!

    thanks for linking up with Turning Heads Tuesday