learn to let go
It’s Sunday morning. The time when you might actually have an hour to spend on sipping your coffee and just stare into whatever is in front of you. Then something clicks and a long list of to dos is going down in front your eyes. Meal prep, laundry, that busy week ahead, meeting preps, checking emails, oh! I haven’t even vacuumed yet and what am I going to cook for dinner? Sounds familiar? In all that clutter of stuff that needs to be checked off the list, I have a tendency of forgetting to appreciate the moment and the people who care about me.
What does it all come down to? Not being a perfectionist? Priority lists?
learn to let go
Or just living a more intentional life? A life where you are not “too busy” to say thank you. A life where you take two extra minutes to show genuine interest about how your coworker’s son did at the basketball game. A life where you work hard to get to your goal, but don’t become bitter if things don’t work out the way you envisioned.
I was raised very strictly, which translated into always being in planning mode, wanting to achieve more and having an attitude of very little or no wiggle room in plans in my adult life. Well, life has thrown some challenges at me along the way that required lots of creativity, persistence and plans B, C, D and E. A more personal toned post on that is HERE.
5+ years in the United States and a laid back and witty hubby have taught me a little something about letting go and appreciating the journey.
The pressures of adulthood tend to take the playfulness out of us and essentially keep us in work mode at all times. A sense of humor and playful attitude will make you more like-able. You will handle stress and daily tasks better.
“A little nonsense now and then, is cherished by the wisest men.” Roald Dahl
develop a consistent “noticing practice”
At the end of each day, can you take even one minute to mentally run back over your day and bring into focus a few small, easy-to-miss moments that meant something to you? Your coworker opening the door for you? A full fridge after getting home, so you don’t have to do grocery shopping? There are tons of those little moments happening to us during the day. All it takes is paying more attention to notice them and appreciate them.
dwell in the positive
We are humans. We tend to complain and see the glass half empty. We don’t notice the good things until we loose them. Complaining and constantly thinking about it is not going to change a thing. Let it go. Move on. Go and do a workout to get your mind focus on something else. The “what if”-s are one of the most damaging and cluttering things to your mind. You cannot change the past. Close it down and move on. Clear your mind from it and focus on the moment that you are in.
keep a handle on excess
Commitments to keep, expectations to uphold, belongings to manage… Unless they’re in line with your values, they’re distracting you from what’s happening right in front of your eyes. Living an edited life takes continual effort and recalibration (because no two seasons are the same), but it’s worth it when it means living your life with your heart and eyes wide open.
A more intentional life has made me leave out little thank you notes for my husband. I no longer find walks a waste of time. I take more time to spend with my family and best friend. I dress less uptight. I find myself buying more intentionally and creating a closet with classic, comfortable, good quality pieces. This linen and cotton pullover is an essential part of my casual weekender closet. This top comes in several colors and I like that the fabric is thin so it’s perfectly comfortable for sunny afternoons. It has very good fabric quality and I would even go that far that it wouldn’t let you down on a casual Friday at work.
Photos by Rick Robillard