learn to let go | easy linen sweater

learn to let go - easy linen sweater - jjillstyle learn to let go - easy linen sweater - jjillstyle learn to let go - easy linen sweater - jjillstyle learn to let go - easy linen sweater - jjillstyle learn to let go - easy linen sweater - jjillstyle

learn to let go

It’s Sunday morning. The time when you might actually have an hour to spend on sipping your coffee and just stare into whatever is in front of you. Then something clicks and a long list of to dos is going down in front your eyes. Meal prep, laundry, that busy week ahead, meeting preps, checking emails, oh! I haven’t even vacuumed yet and what am I going to cook for dinner? Sounds familiar? In all that clutter of stuff that needs to be checked off the list, I have a tendency of forgetting to appreciate the moment and the people who care about me.

What does it all come down to? Not being a perfectionist? Priority lists?

learn to let go

Or just living a more intentional life? A life where you are not “too busy” to say thank you. A life where you take two extra minutes to show genuine interest about how your coworker’s son did at the basketball game. A life where you work hard to get to your goal, but don’t become bitter if things don’t work out the way you envisioned.

I was raised very strictly, which translated into always being in planning mode, wanting to achieve more and having an attitude of very little or no wiggle room in plans in my adult life. Well, life has thrown some challenges at me along the way that required lots of creativity, persistence and plans B, C, D and E. A more personal toned post on that is HERE.

5+ years in the United States and a laid back and witty hubby have taught me a little something about letting go and appreciating the journey.

embrace play

The pressures of adulthood tend to take the playfulness out of us and essentially keep us in work mode at all times. A sense of humor and playful attitude will make you more like-able. You will handle stress and daily tasks better.

“A little nonsense now and then, is cherished by the wisest men.” Roald Dahl

develop a consistent “noticing practice”

At the end of each day, can you take even one minute to mentally run back over your day and bring into focus a few small, easy-to-miss moments that meant something to you? Your coworker opening the door for you? A full fridge after getting home, so you don’t have to do grocery shopping? There are tons of those little moments happening to us during the day. All it takes is paying more attention to notice them and appreciate them.

dwell in the positive

We are humans. We tend to complain and see the glass half empty. We don’t notice the good things until we loose them. Complaining and constantly thinking about it is not going to change a thing. Let it go. Move on. Go and do a workout to get your mind focus on something else. The “what if”-s are one of the most damaging and cluttering things to your mind. You cannot change the past. Close it down and move on. Clear your mind from it and focus on the moment that you are in.

keep a handle on excess

Commitments to keep, expectations to uphold, belongings to manage… Unless they’re in line with your values, they’re distracting you from what’s happening right in front of your eyes. Living an edited life takes continual effort and recalibration (because no two seasons are the same), but it’s worth it when it means living your life with your heart and eyes wide open.

A more intentional life has made me leave out little thank you notes for my husband. I no longer find walks a waste of time. I take more time to spend with my family and best friend. I dress less uptight. I find myself buying more intentionally and creating a closet with classic, comfortable, good quality pieces. This linen and cotton pullover is an essential part of my casual weekender closet. This top comes in several colors and I like that the fabric is thin so it’s perfectly comfortable for sunny afternoons. It has very good fabric quality and I would even go that far that it wouldn’t let you down on a casual Friday at work.

outfit details

linen & cotton sweater – j.jill c/o
jeans – fabrizio gianni c/o (skinny version HERE)
sneakers – old (similar HERE)
watch – daniel wellington c/o
sunglasses – loft

Photos by Rick Robillard

  • http://notjessfashion.com/ Jessica

    I love the color combo of the sweater and your pants. Pastels for spring is always a good idea!

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

  • http://eleganceandmommyhood.blogspot.com/ ADA

    What a great post. So well written and with good intentions. You are right, we need to look at the smaller things on our day to day basis that we take for granted and take a couple extra minutes to be grateful or ask someone about something important to them.

    This outfit is so chic, great casual Spring basics. Love the sweater, Bogi.

    I host a style linkup on Thursdays and I’d love for you to join it and share your great sense of style. Thanks and enjoy the weekend!!


    • http://redreticule.com Red Reticule

      Thank you so much, Ada! Noticing and cherishing those little moments in life has truly been life changing. There’s a story someone told me : there used to be a giant tree, many many years old. It survived the worst thunderstorms, hurricanes and earthquakes. What ended up killing the tree were the little bugs chewing at it from the inside. This made me reflect and remember to let the small stuff go, live in the moment and focus more on the big picture. Wishing you a relaxing weekend!

      • http://eleganceandmommyhood.blogspot.com/ ADA

        I am so glad you replied to me because it is a beautiful thoughtful reply and a beautiful and very meaningful story about the tree. It is true, trees are some of nature’s biggest survivors, so are human beings. =) We always need to smile and don’t sweat the small stuff.

        Welcome by and join my brand-new Thursday Moda that launched today. Love your blog and your impeccable, super elegant, chic style so I’d love for you to come and share it with me and my readers, Bogi. Thank you and have the loveliest weekend!


        Ada =))

  • http://www.apocketfulofpolkadots.com/ JL@ A Pocketful of Polka Dots

    Fabulous casual look – love the striped sneakers! Really great post. I agree living life with intention is important and makes such a difference. Thanks for linking up and have a wonderful weekend!

  • http://notdeadyetstyle.com Patti

    Wonderful post – as a fellow “intense planner” I have reflected a lot on what you’ve written here! Thanks for linking up, xo


    • http://redreticule.com Red Reticule

      Thank you Patti! I’m glad you enjoyed the post! I still have to remind myself to be selective about what I allow to get to me and what I should let go. Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

  • CaseyGirl

    Very inspiring post… and beautiful pictures! It is very hard for me to slow down or let go. I like hearing how you are processing it.

    Glad I found you through a link up!

    • http://redreticule.com Red Reticule

      Slowing down, noticing and embracing the little moments in life is a work in progress for me still. It sure is a process, especially if you are a type A personality. Thanks so much for stopping by! Bogi

  • http://www.mynewhappy.com/ Lana L.

    Being more intentional is something I’m working very hard on. Love this post! And I love the pastels in your outfit – so pretty! Thanks for linking up with Fabulous Friday!